ami-angelwings:

summer-of-supervillainy:

officialbrostrider:

helenaphan:

officialbrostrider:

i remember when i was 14 this kid asked me out and i told him i wasnt allowed to date till i was 16 and he said “i’ll wait.”

two years later he wished me a happy birthday and asked me out

did you say yes

DID YOU FUCKING SAY YES

I gotta say, it’s weird and uncomfortable that tumblr keeps demanding romantic endings to stories of people hitting on people, in the hopes of a “happy ending” or whatever.

And you know what, it’s actually pretty fucking creepy that a guy would take a straight up no as your opening bargaining position in the negotiations for him dating you and then THINK ABOUT IT FOR TWO YEARS AND ASK YOU OUT LITERALLY THE FUCKING INSTANT THE EXCUSE BEHIND YOUR NO LAPSES so now he gets to say “but why not?” and attack your next excuse.

If this guy actually cared about whether you wanted to go out with him, instead of just trying to whittle down the barriers between him and getting to date you, he wouldn’t have just ambushed you the moment hunting season opened.

It’s kinda what we were saying before about how women use the word “creepy” because any other reason we give gets treated like a binding contract that they can nitpick & find loopholes in and then get upset when we still don’t date them.

And for reals about the people treating this like a TV show.  This is a person’s life.  I skimmed the tumblr and wow did a lot of people send asks going WHY DIDN’T YOU SAY YES, HE WAITED 2 YEARS!  Because people can make their own decisions about who they want to date?  Because this person didn’t belong to him, and it doesn’t matter how long he “waited” or obsessed over them?  A relationship isn’t like ordering something off the internet, it’s a decision that all parties have to consent to.

This attitude is also why I hate the whole “giant public marriage proposal” thing you see, where like a guy asks his girlfriend to marry him in front of 50,000 people at a football game, and it’s on the jumbotron & he knows that everybody is waiting for her to say yes.  It’s… at best it’s incredibly selfish because you’re not considering the other person’s feelings and whether they want to be put on the spot publicly like that, at worst, it’s manipulative & coercive because you know that everybody is treating this like a TV show & they expect a “happy ending” & you’re putting it on the other person to not ruin it.  Like seriously, tumblr may be your entertainment, but people’s posts about their lives here aren’t TV shows.  You might get 5 seconds of squee about a romantic ending, they have to continue living their lives, not you.  I’ve seen those end with the woman saying no, and you can see how everybody is disappointed in her and feeling so bad for the guy, and that kind of says how screwed up our construction of this is. Like, this isn’t a private decision between two people.  Her happiness isn’t also at stake, just his, and she’s just ruined his happiness, rather than made a decision about her own life.

Also, the whole “but he waited for you!” thing that I see in a lot of people’s asks to the OP, like because the guy waited, therefore there’s some obligation to not have wasted his time, even though it’s his own decision to do that.  And I think fiction has really programmed us to see “waiting for somebody” as automatically meaning how sincere and true your love feelings are, and therefore they must be rewarded no matter how the other person feels.